I first went to Thailand in 1997 and immediately fell in love with the country. Thailand at that time to me was mysterious and exotic, full of potentials and pitfalls.
Fast forward to 2010 and here I am after 13 years and many trips to the LOS sharing, with the help of my 
Thai Womens Expectations in Farang/Thai Marriages
I would like to know more about what a Thai woman seeks in marriage abroad to a western husband. Do they have a realistic view of us, or do they subscribe to various fantasies about us?
Answer: I spoke with Golf about this and she told me that for her and her friends the expectations are completely normal. Of course Thai’s do believe that Americans are all rich and we are in terms of Thai earning potential. The only way to truly dispel this is once you get married and your new Thai wife comes to the U.S. Make sure she is involved in the finances and bill paying and she will begin to see that while we Americans make a lot of money it is also much more expensive to live in the U.S.
The thing that opened Golf’s eyes the most was after she started working and interacting with working class Americans (vs the typical well off Thailand tourist). She came back from work one day and commented “Americans aren’t all rich are they?” I replied that I had been trying to tell her that and she shook her head and said “yes”, but she hadn’t really understood before. Golf still gets surprised at the cost of some things here compared to Thailand.
That aside, Thai women know that Americans and Europeans are more faithful in relationships, less abusive and more generous as a whole than their Thai counterparts. So, they expect these things, but I believe that is the reality anyway. They also know that the standard of living in America and Europe is much higher than in Thailand. So, they are seeking a better standard of living and a husband that is faithful, generous and loving. Pretty realistic I’d say.
And then I received this back:
Sounds to me that Thai women just want a reasonable married life with an appreciative husband. Like you say, pretty realistic. If fidelity, kindness, and generosity are lacking in the average Thai man, then Thai women will find American men to be much more satisfactory in this regard. Add to that our improved living standard, our mandated gender equality, the broad scope of opportunities for work and for education, then I think that the western world is very likely a big step up for many Thai woman.
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Thank you for this site I have been talking to this Thai lady she has a 7yr girl and works in the office at a school I like he verry much and she said she likes me alot too we have talk on line alot today is the first time that I called her and I could hear chirldren it the back so I know hope pray she is not playing I dont think so and would love to take it to the next steep my problem is I told her that Iam not rich that I only make $1500 dollars a month and that in sep of 05 I was robed and shot 3 times in texas and in the usa people and me think thats poor I I did not tell her that I will be getting a big check from ssdi gov for two years back pay in about 5 mounts but still dont make that much she has not asked me for nothing she is so sweet and says thats alot of money and I say not here she says thats ok but I really like this girl I am a single father of a 13 year boy try that on 1500 and cant work and she has a little girl and they would be loved and not go without as much as I can give I understand the mom and dad thing because im from the south Charleston and was raised good and would love to and would do all I could for them but If I realy like this girl can she live and be happy with what I got and can afford or should I tell her that she should try to find someone that can take better care of them I live in Bellingham WA in a nice two bedroom apt the apt has nice stuff and not a dump and we have good schools I realy like this lady and want to do the right thing by her please try to help me! thank you chris