Thai Parents Views on Foreign Husbands

Question: I assume it would be natural for Thai parents to have some legitimate concerns about a foreign guy marrying their daughter. Can you provide your insight about this?

Answer: I want to preface my answer by saying that Golf has read it and agrees with me.

The above dowry and family support answers also apply to your question regarding parent’s views of foreign husbands. Of course the parents are concerned for their daughters and the intentions and ability of the foreigner to take care of her. They also consider Europeans and Americans to be rich, which we are in terms of the typical Thai lifestyle. Of course they are rich in other ways in my opinion, but that’s another topic entirely.

I think once you meet the parents and they see that you and your Thai girlfriend love each other much of their concern will be gone. Add to that a little bit of generosity so they see that you can take care of their daughter and her kids and you’ll be fine.

My mother-in-law hovers over me and takes care of me like a mother hen when we visit. And this is even though she speaks no English and I speak very limited Thai.

I really don’t think that the parents are much of a concern in most cases although I have heard stories of parents telling their daughter she is not allowed to marry with someone (Thai or foreigner) and the daughter will follow their wishes. In many cases this is because the parents have already arranged a marriage for their daughter which is not something you need to worry about.

If you really want her parents on your side make your trip to Thailand for at least two weeks and spend several days of that time visiting her hometown and her parents/family. Bring small gifts for everyone and take care of restaurant bills etc. while there (no one likes a cheap son-in-law). This will go a long way in furthering your case in most parents eyes and will give you some face as well which is always good in Thailand.

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