I first went to Thailand in 1997 and immediately fell in love with the country. Thailand at that time to me was mysterious and exotic, full of potentials and pitfalls.
Fast forward to 2010 and here I am after 13 years and many trips to the LOS sharing, with the help of my 
Thai Girls – What you should know!
Don’t believe what you hear about Thai girls from promiscuous Thailand sex tourists!
If you’ve done any searching on the internet about Thailand and especially Thai girls you’ve likely found tons of stories, many of them written by western men. These stories are their first hand accounts of Thailand and Thai girls in particular, but you should keep in mind that most of these stories are coming from a small minority of the men visiting Thailand in search of sex. The Thai girls they meet and talk about are mostly prostitutes and bargirls working in popular red light districts like Nana Plaza, Patpong and Soi Cowboy. These Thai girls are a minority of the Thai female population and should not in anyway be confused with everyday good Thai girls.
When you read these stories you’ll get the impression that all Thai girls are just after your money and that they all lie, but please don’t believe these tales of despair. Consider the source…these are tourists looking for nothing but cheap sex. Even so, Thai prostitutes are often much more honest and (at least on the surface) caring than their western or Latin American counterparts.
Good Thai girls from normal society make outstanding girlfriends and wives. Thai culture puts an emphasis on women caring for their men and on family so marrying a Thai girl is the best move you can make in my opinion. And while Thai girls are typically shy about physical contact in public this is completely not true in private. Thai’s do not have most of the sexual hang-ups and taboos that westerners have and they can be very uninhibited in private.
So how can you meet a nice Thai girls? Well, the obvious answer is to move to Thailand, learn some of the language and then simply talk to the girls you meet in your daily life just like you would in your own country. Many Thai girls are quite open to having a foreigner (farang) for a boyfriend or husband and you’ll find that you should have no problem whatsoever getting dates in this way.
If you don’t live in Thailand then I would like to suggest ThaiLoveLinks to you. Here you can meet many Thai girls who are interested in meeting foreigners for dating and marriage. I can personally recommend ThaiLoveLinks because I met my wife Golf through this site. Even though I travel to Thailand frequently, because I don’t live there full time it was much easier to meet someone through this site.
If you choose to use ThaiLoveLinks and you need any help communicating with a girl feel free to contact us. Golf would be happy to do translations for you and for the girl. And if you end up meeting someone and getting married I would love to hear about it.
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while having limited experience with Thai women, I have seen the blending of western society in the younger generation, the shyness in public places and their lack of inhibition in private. They are wonderfully feminine and devoted within relationships, a breath of fresh air. But beware the more modern girls, as they act far less traditionally than their mothers, and be very aware of appearances, presentation and manners. All of which are highly valued in this asian culture, and with the politeness of the Thai culture, they will seldom, if ever, correct you or indicate that you have offended them.
Just wanted to comment that i am jumping in with both feet to meet a Thai wife. I live in South Florida and have a good friend who is Thai and owns a Thai restaurant. I have eat there often and have met several of his workers but have never dated any of them except one girl in particular. She was very nice, kind and considerate. She had alot of personal problems which haunted her every step and I felt it was not healthy to be with her and bailed. Since then i have decided to meet a possible girl friend/wife from Thailand with the help of my friend who owns the restaurant. He is willing to help me if I meet someone special. I have joined Thailovelinks and have posted my profile and am actively beginning what it takes to meet the right Thai girl. Wish me luck!!!!
Best of luck to you!
I’m certain that you’ll have success in your quest since you already have some understanding of Thai culture from your past relationship and you also have some guidance from your Thai friend. I wouldn’t be surprised to see a comment from you by this time next year letting us know that you’re happily married and your new wife is in South Florida with you :>)
I have a Thai friend (girl) that I meet on the internet about 3 mounths ago. We first wrote emails back and forth to each other then we talked on the phone and after we started to chat on MSN. She tells me she came to Bongkok about 4 years ago when she was 15 to go to school. First she got a job at a golf course holding an umbrella, like a cady I guess. She then met a man who was 42 and the started a relationship, she started to live with him and went to school. She found he had a family and kids and broke up with him. Now 2 years have passed and she clames she hasent seen him. Now to keep this short we talk on the phone alot, she calls me about 3 times a day and I call her to and we chat for about 2 to 3 hrs a night. She tells me this x boy friend of hers sends her 30000 a month for her appartment and school, ect… I ask why and she says he is a thai police man and wants to take care of her? She is now building a home for her parents, who I have also talked to. And she tells them that she has fallen in love with me? With her schooling, and I know she is in school because I have chatted on MSN when in school, and talking with me I dont see how she has another man in her life. And she speakes english very good also. This week she just bought a car. She never asked me for money and wants me to visit her next year. I tell he that I can only bring $1000.00 US doller and she says that she can pay if I run out of money. She also menchened last week she is plaining on moving to a diffrent appartment and changing her phone # after school is out in Febuary.I feel like he feeling are honest with me, she says she was bad to men but after meeting me she changed, she liked to hurt men and make them cry. I wounder if this girl has scamed men out of money and even a house? Because she was hurt by her first boyfriend? I told her I am not rich and she says we can work togeather. I am very confused with her. Can you help?
havibg read about tll yes great site i met someone from there but dont be fooled the bar girls are on there to posing as university students to professionals just be careful and dont be stupid dont send money before your sure and bewarw the ghanqa girls on there hope everyone fonds a good thai girl they are the best but if you get a wrong one they can be the worst nightmare
timothy wake up man i wouldnt think thai police man earn 30 000 and they certainly would not send it to an x gf how did she buy a car wake up man you have not got a thai gf find a nice thai lady think man how did she live with him if he had a family and kids so shes just bought a car and building a house wake up or she is going to wake you up i dont know you or her but think about it how can she love you she dont even know you ive been there i know how it can seem i was stupid to but i woke up in time now i have a nice honest thai lady if it sounds to good to be true then it is i even went and met her parents and thankfully my son came with me and told me a few home truths best if luck maybe im wrong but i dont think so
Derek,
Glad to hear that you’ve met a nice Thai girl and everything seems to be going really well with you. As far as the bg’s posing as uni students and such, I think that is increased recently, but as long as you maintain some common sense and such I think anyone has a good chance to meet a good Thai girl. Like you said, if it sounds too good to be true it probably is and never send more money than you are willing to lose. In some cases it is truly justified, but in many cases it will be a scam and they are just looking to get into your pocket. In my case I did send money to Golf before meeting her and I received it back 6 weeks later when I arrived in Thailand. This totally solidified my trust in her. Needless to say, 3+ years later and we are still together and happier than ever.
Hi everybody, I am Italian but living in Canada since 12 years, and I met long time before a Thai girl in Italy, and I went to see her in London again, but with no success since she was out of country that time. Anyway, since then I had interest for a Thai woman, and I am an oriental philosophy studier so I assume I had always a sort of tendency to get in to a Thai woman “idea”. I have been in Philippines before, and I had some experience with Philipino women, and I have very good facts to remember. But then happened that I met once in one trip of mine a Thai girl just sharing some conversation, but I was passing by and we said to stay in touch by emailing. In fact that’s what happened, we stayed in touch by emailing and chatting by internet for 5 years and also by webcam. But I never thought to start a relation-ship with this woman. Then after 5 years for some reason I started to like her as appereance but also as personality, she is a great woman with so many qualities of loyalty in friend-ship, and so many great principles in the life. She is hard worker and very understanding person and with an amazing character, thinking, talking and interfering with me. Then we decide to meet after 5 years, in Bangkok. We kissed the first day. But we felt to know each other very well, in fact it was like that, maybe that’s why happened. She got vacations from work, and she is living in Bangkok far from her hometown, then she was a bit more free to date me. In fact we decided to spend 3 weeks in Koh Samui, where we lived together. And we had a great respect for each other but I proposed to her to become boyfriend and girlfriend, because I found an incredible match being with her. Then now we are planning to get married after 1 year of that meeting, and I know dowry, I know well Thai culture, and I am sending money to her to save to achieve 200,000 baht as parents requested. I am not expecting money back, but I just hope to reach as soon as possible the amount requested because it’s the best thing happened in my life.
Cheers
Hi Steve
I would like to ask if Golf would be interested in seeing if the girl I am dating is for real or not. I realise this would be hard for her as well though I figure she will know the questions to ask and what the response is like (ie if she gives the “right” response)
I am willing to pay for her time if she is interested and understand if this request is a little strange and cannot be transacted.
If willing, I am happy to share some details of both the lady and myself
She is 25 I am a very young at heart 43 yo (both score nil on the kids front)
Cheers
RR
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I am american and have been living in Thailand for 4 years so i have first hand knowlage of this country. I am sorry to disagree with you Steve but i think your here to sign people up for Thai Love Links. I have met and married a girl here and also divorced her after 1.5 years of marriage. What you have writen here is all but cream on a cake with these girls. My ex-wife was one of your so called good girls going to college for her BA as all kids do here in this country. What i now know about the girls here i could write a book and probly should. If ANYONE wants to know the truth about the girls here i would be more than happy to answer you. I am not here to talk bad about the girls as they are beautiful and i am living with my Fianc’e who is a 5 year english Major with a teaching degree. But i also want any guy here who has or is thinking about meeting a Thai girl to know everything he should about them. And trust me guy’s they do lie and not just the BG’s but it is how they were brought up. It cost me over 3 million Thai Baht with my Thai wife to find out how things really are here in The (LOS).
Met my thai wife in ireland last year she is honest and a wonderful lady i visited her family this year and they are good hardworking honest family from isann she never asked for money or neither did her family she is univeresty educated and i feel so blessed i know some guys can get caught out but that is life the good thai women are beautiful inside and out . There are bargirls in all parts of asia not just thai the phillipinnes as well as i had 1 bad experience with 1 filipino but i learned my lesson and moved on and am not bitter there are always a few bad apples but now i am so lucky and thankful for finding love with my thai woman best a luck to all here
hi steve , ive recently started chatting to a thai girl for 4 months now , and was online trying to find out as much as possible about thailand when came across this site, soo far she seems ok and although we not meet , there is a connection it seems , she hasnt asked for money but said if we marry i must give dowry to her mum which is custom culture , but she says she not know address as rents room , she said doesnt like people living there and gave me another safe address to correspond , she did give me the road in chonburi but not name or number of property do you think this is strange, consider that she said i could stay there when i come over , but still ? in mind why , ive her mobile number and name too am i being too negative because im reading all negative stuff about thai girls , everyone who i tell says dont trust after your money what do you think steve
In my opinion people are much more likely to share bad experiences as opposed to good. I think this is why you find so many negative stories floating around the internet when it comes to dating and marrying Thai girls. Of course that’s not to say that all the stories are false, I’ve met both good Thai girls and bad Thai girls over the years. I’ve also met good and bad American, Russian, Singaporean, etc…I think you get the idea.
If she hasn’t asked for money that’s a good thing although I think people may make more of that than necessary too. I loaned money to Golf 4 months after we met (a small amount) and was promptly paid back 2 months later when I arrived in Bangkok. So it’s not always the kiss of death when your Thai girlfriends asks for money.
Regarding the address thing I think that is common too. Golf eventually gave me her apartment address in Bangkok (I don’t think she knew what the address was until I pressured her to find out), but I never mailed anything to that address because she didn’t trust the people living there either. Anything mailed went to her work address or her parents home. I’m not entirely sure what the deal is with the name and number of the property in Chonburi, but its possible she simply doesn’t know.
Bottom line…unless she gives you some reason to be negative or suspicious I wouldn’t worry. Don’t let the negative experiences and pessimism of others color your own thoughts. As with any relationship a bit of common sense and trust is necessary. Take your time and let things develop naturally.
Oh, you may want to think twice about staying with her and her family in Chonburi. Trust me it can be quite exhausting living like a Thai even for just a few days. Think about no air con in 90+ degree heat, possibly no indoor plumbing, mosquitos everywhere and eating with the family for a week and decide if you really want to do that. I do it at Golf’s parents, but I can’t say I enjoy it. A better option may be to stay in a hotel nearby and just spend the days with the family.
thanks alot steve , put my mind at rest there , she told me she wasnt a virgin and by coincidence, ive just seen your bargirl good girl bad girl list so does that mean shes a bargirl , as it was big on the losing virginity thing , her family from nong khai by the way, but even more important it saya dowry not paid if not a virgin soo she must know that soo whats your comments on that please
Hey Martin,
Take the “Good Girl, Bad Girl” list in context. If you met her in Nong Khai and she had never left there I would say yeah the list might apply. If she’s lived in Bangkok then things are a bit different as Bangkok is really not like the rest of Thailand.
Yes it’s true that traditionally sin sot (dowry) is not paid if the girl is not a virgin. That being said I think that in the case of a Westerner marrying a Thai the same rules do not apply. Many have made the case that dowry should not be paid at all since we are not Thai and do not follow Thai cultural rules. Some have said that this is the Thai’s trying to “rob us”. I think all of that is rubbish.
Here’s what I think…you are still expected to pay dowry just as a Thai guy would. In fact, I think that not paying the dowry would result in a great loss of face for your new wife and her family. Assuming you make an average Western wage you are quite well off by rural Thai standards and the expectation is that you would not be stingy or greedy when it comes to your wedding.
At the end of the day though it really comes down to what you are comfortable with. Keep in mind that Thai’s negotiate dowry (usually the best man will negotiate with the brides mother – that’s the traditional way) so if you’re willing to pay the dowry, but the figure is too high have your fiancee intervene on your behalf. If you’re marrying into a decent family they certainly don’t want to bankrupt you at the beginning of your marriage.
I was a bit hesitant myself at first, however the dowry ended up paying for the wedding and we got to keep the guests gifts…it all evened out pretty well and still cost probably 1/20th of what a wedding in America would have cost.
i been on thai love links and yes there is bad girls on there as well as nice thai girls i been talking with thai girl from chiang kham phayao for 3 months now but now she says can i wait 5 to 6 months for her and she said she not sure about everything in her life
what does that mean