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I know many of you that have found Thailand Musings are interested in Thai girls and how to find a Thai bride of your own. After being married to a wonderful Thai girl for over 3 years I can understand your interest in Thai girls. Read more about my Thai bride.
You may remember the great comment and post from our friend Pass about why Thai girls choose foreigners for love and marriage. I think it was really wonderful of Pass to share her thoughts with us and give us some insight into the thought process of Thai girls.
Now, we have the chance to return the favor by providing some information for Pass. She has written to me and asked if I and my readers can help her and other Thai girls by answering the question: “What kind of Thai girls do the foreigners fall in love with”? Specifically she would like to know about what it is you like about Thai girls, what kind of look do you like, what kind of education or qualifications should the girl have and what personality traits are attractive to you.
I hope that I get loads of response to this post in the comments below because I would really like to help Pass (and any other Thai girls that read this post) get an answer to this question and thus have a better understanding of foreign guys and what we are looking for in a girl for love and marriage. Let’s face it, we have loads of questions about Thai girls, but they also have loads of questions about foreign guys.
So let’s all get some karma today and help answer this question for the Thai girls. I’ll start:
I like a girl who is well built and not too thin, lighter skin and with long hair. Short or tall is not that important to me, it’s the whole package of how she is built. She should be intelligent and preferably will have a university degree, but it’s not necessary. It would be good if she can speak at least passable English and is willing to learn more. Yes I will learn Thai, but I think English will be more useful to her than Thai would be to me. Qualifications are not that important, although I do prefer a girl who at least works, preferably in a professional field (education, healthcare, law, etc). She should be patient and kind and should be able to cook (yes it’s true, the way to a guys heart IS through his stomach!) and she should have a strong family connection. Most of all she should be madly in love with me and willing to do anything for us to be together. Lucky me…I found Golf!
OK guys your turn. What would you look for in a Thai girl if you were looking for a wife?
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For me they must have a goog heart. And be devoted to family and me. The looks, build education and job are important but as much as the heart. You being Thai you understand what I mean by good heart, unless you’ve been to Thailand alot most will not understand what it means. I’m very lucky that I’ve meet Kai on my second trip to the country we were made for each other lucky me.
I’m looking for pretty girl that will like to live in The U S A. It will be an agreement that she take care of me and I take care of her. Some English a must, willing to learn, willing to work, clean and honest. Sense of humor, sense of fairness, cooking not that important. I can do that. Understanding of different cultures from hers. Someone who can be exciting and also quiet. Hope this helps
Difficult question as there needs to be that spark or x factor that is difficult to describe……….
I generally find Thai girls a lot more approachable, and open & honest about their feelings than Western girls. If they like you they’ll tell you and if you upset them you’ll know. There aren’t the games that can be with Western girls. I think it’s a really refreshing honesty.
I like reasonably slim built Thai girls that are a little bit shorter than me, say 5′3 to 5′6. You’ve got to be able to communicate for a relationship so it’s important that they can speak ok English and understand (or at least humours!) my Thai. Any girl needs to be interesting and intelligent, so I’d agree with the need for university education.
Dealing with the income disaparity (and there almost certainly will be a pretty big one) can be a problem. Some girls want to take advantage which doesn’t work in the long term.
Good Thai girls are also quite conservative and like to take things slower than us Western guys are normally used to. No public displays of affection etc… That requires a bit of understanding.
Thanks for all the responses so far, I’m sure Pass will be glad to see this.
@ Richard – Very good points made. I hadn’t even thought about the approachability of Thai girls, that is a quality I have found is very appealing in the past. I wish I could get the opinion of a Thai guy about the openness issue, simply because I know that Thai culture is very repressed and it is considered a loss of face to let your feelings show in public. I think in some cases the girls are more open with farang simply because we are not Thai. When Golf and I first started dating she would typically hold in her feelings when she was upset until she got to the exploding point. Now, she is much more open in that she will let me know immediately if she is upset about something.
This depends entirely on a person’s view point – I’m not sure you can build an ideal woman for a foreigner. There are different types based on foreigner, but then you run the danger of stereotyping.
Example, many foreigners I know seem happy to take the first woman that shows an interest, such is their desperation to get a Thai girlfriend. Hardly a solid building block for a solid relationship.
Apologies if I sound a little cynical but I am only going on my experience and first hand stories from living in Thailand.
My wife is Thai, we met in England where she was studying, I don’t go for Thai/Asian women specifically which I think makes our relationship a healthy one.
Yes it does depend entirely on the people involved. What is right for me is not necessarily right for you or anyone else for that matter. No need to apologize for sounding cynical Jon, there are probably lots of reasons for feeling that way, depending on who you talk to.
At the end of the day each of us is different, but I do feel there are some common threads that run through many of the healthy Thai-Farang relationships. Maybe I am way off base with this thought, but I was trying to get some feedback for Pass to determine what some of these common threads might be.
when i was in Thailand i met a girl who wanted to marry with falang.
and she said looks doesnt matter as long as he have good heart. good job. and can take care of me.
but for me most imortant is also heart.
i met a lesbian thai girl but we fell in love.
what can i say.
the most important thing is that they are true to themselves. and dont changes for man