When European and American fellows come to Thailand to meet a Thai girl, quite a few of them will join 1 of the Thai dating firms that abound in Bangkok. Here, they connect with several women who match their criteria, many of them girlish and beautiful and, for a good number of these fellows, matrimony will come after the Thai dating experience quickly. They end up with a youthful spouse, who is typically very cute and has all the things a fellow thinks he wants.

For the ladies who sign up with the Thai dating companies, they typically say they are looking for a man who is kind, considerate, will take care of me, has dosh and a steady job. When they connect with an older Western guy, through the Thai dating company, they believe he possesses all these characteristics.

The issues begin for the lady when they get back to the bloke’s native country to learn he is a working class fellow, with scant money and no life. I’ve met Thai girls who have wedded a man similar to this, traveled to America to live with them, and decided within a couple weeks that this bloke and lifestyle is not possible for them. They turned up back on the first airplane to Thailand a few weeks later. For Thai ladies who decide on this life, they want to see other countries. All Thais however adore Thailand and the lifestyle there. It only takes several weeks in the cold of England or the brashness of the US for them to decide they desire no part of it.

For the men, they marry a Thai girl thinking they have got a girl who is pretty, young, will love them and take care of them, and be their dream spouse. Reality comes when the real personality of the Thai wife comes forward. Thai girls have an outer demeanor of calm and subservience. In truth, Thai ladies rule the roost and have powerful persona’s. For a American bloke who believed he had his meek dream girl, it’s a huge wake up call. Suddenly their Thai wife is tougher and harder to please than any American woman they’ve ever been with. I can attest to this as Golf definitely has a very strong side. In general she is quite easy going and willing to please…right up to the point where you cross her…then watch out!

Additionally there is the truth that the American bloke is deluding himself when he assumes a youthful, attractive Thai woman is dating or marrying him for himself. These women are searching for a better life (who can criticize them!), and it’s completely about economics. Most of them would not date the fifty-five year old American man if they had other options. But, if the 55 year old American guy comes with a huge home, a nice automobile and a large bank account – yep, they’ll take him. In the future however, when he realizes communication with his wife is limited because her language skills are low and she has differing hobbies and desires, that’s when these blokes start thinking about divorce.

For the girls, Thailand has become a place that is concerned with money and material wealth. Most average Thai girls have no recourse to achieving this so, when a Western man appears like a knight in shining armor, not many of them will spurn his propositions. Everything they have ever dreamed of is being given to them. Why would they turn it down? And they are even turning to the Thai dating sites in increasing numbers to obtain this lifestyle for themselves. Don’t believe me? Go check one of the Thai dating sites and see how many girls are signed up there.

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It seems to me that there are lots of of fellows hunting for a Thailand girl to be their wife and I believe this is a very good idea. I can assure you from first hand experience that a Thai wife makes a wonderful partner and can make your life more rich. If you haven’t already taken the first step I recommend that you do so by getting online and looking around at who some of the Thai dating sites can offer you.

You will find that your new Thai wife won’t be leery of work, but you should give her some space in her imaginings of a new life of leisure. A Thai lady will cook dinner, do the laundry, bring you a drink, spoil you and even deal with you hanging out at the local pub for a few drinks every evening as long as you take care of her as well (which might include sending money home to her family). You might even go as far as making her responsible for the family budget and you can be certain that she will do an excellent job.

You Need to Be Patient
I can’t even tell you how often I’ve heard of fellows going to Thailand on vacation and getting hitched to the first lovely lady they encounter. This is not only foolish for the bloke, but equally foolish for the girl who is probably just taking whatever chance she gets as her chances of meeting Europeans and Americans is limited, especially if she lives and works outside the tourist areas.

In your own country you wouldn’t imagine marrying someone you met a month ago. It takes time to get to know your new friend, to comprehend her culture and background and to gain each others trust. You also need to comprehend the financial repercussions of your relationship, as throughout history in Thailand marriage is a financial partnership as much as a romantic one. Be sure to look before you leap.

That’s not to say it won’t work if you meet someone and get to know them very quickly. Golf and I knew each other less than 5 months when we got married. Sometimes you know when something is right in your heart and it’s worth it to take a chance. It was definitely worth it for us.

Considering Age vs Beauty
It’s true that younger Thai girls are obviously prettier and vivacious, many times they are less settled and less reliable. Older Thai girls usually will have improved social skills, better values and will be more steadfast. Thailand has undergone quite a bit of changes over the past twenty to thirty and you’ll find that the younger Thai women might be lacking in a lot of the former charm and innocence of Thailand. This certainly doesn’t mean that you can’t find a charming wife in Thailand, it just means that your Thailand girl will be a bit more worldly than in the past.

Be a culture scholar
Make an attempt to learn Thai language and learn as much as you can about the Thai culture. There are many sites on the net you can visit to learn about Thai culture and to learn some Thai language (hint: subscribe to Thailand Musings). If you ever expect to cross the cultural boundary you should at least respect your Thai wife enough to try.

It still amazes me that lots of fellows still travel to Thailand expecting to collect a new Thai bride like getting a new wardrobe. Even more amazing is that they imagine their new Thai wife will slide right into life back in their home city without any understanding of her culture. Not to say it can’t be accomplished, but I think it is crucial to at least have knowledge of Thai culture so you understand what your bride is going through. Thai and Western cultures can be totally different in many ways.

Don’t shy away from a shy Thailand girl
Thai’s are usually very conservative and shy so I would expect at least a bit of shyness from your Thai girl, especially at the start. Don’t be surprised if the lady invites a family member or best friend with them on your first couple of dates, this is completely normal for Thai culture. Also, don’t be surprised if it takes a bit of time to have your 1st kiss. Romantic actions aren’t viewed as they are in the West and intimacy is something that typically comes later in a relationship in Thailand than in America.

That being said, typically a shy Thailand girl is also a good lady. One who has good manners, morals and values. These are exactly the types of women you want to be looking for if you’re looking to marry a Thai lady. Please be patient as often Thai good girls will think that once you are sharing a bed your future marriage is guaranteed. Try not to hurt them.

Final Thoughts
While I have tried to be as objective as possible each guys experiences will obviously be unique. Some of you may not agree with what I’ve written and that’s fine, it is simply a general guideline for successfully finding a Thai wife. I have some experience in this matter obviously, but it is uniquely mine. While stereotypes abound on the internet you’ll find that they are rarely completely true. If you approach finding a good Thailand girl with your eyes wide open and fully informed you stand a much better chance of having success.

Keep in mind that there is no such thing as the perfect relationship. Any good relationship will require work. Meeting the perfect Thai wife will give you the feeling you’re on cloud nine and certainly many guys report feeling like the happiest man on the planet once they locate their perfect Thailand girl.

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