Over the past 4 years (has it really been THAT long?) Golf and I have been able to connect with many people through this site and thanks to our honest and straight forward advice regarding Thai-Western relationships. As you have probably noticed, Golf isn’t really active here at Thailand Musings any longer due to her commitments to her own sites; Awesome Thai Food & Love Thai Guys and of course the time involved with a newborn in the house.

While I feel fully confident in my own advice, thoughts and musings about Thailand, relationships and the wonderful gentler sex in Thailand I totally believe that a balanced view should always be taken. Being able to include the thoughts of a Thai girl regarding Thai-Western relationships is a huge help to all my readers, but where could I find a Thai girl willing to write about relationships on a regular basis?

Fortunately I have been able to find someone who has the same passion for Thailand, relationships between Thai’s and Westerners and love that I have. Bonus #1 it’s a female, bonus #2 she’s Thai and bonus #3 she’s spent time in both Thailand (obviously) as well as Australia.

Who is this mystery woman you are probably asking by now. Her name is Angella and she has graciously agreed to guest post a column here on Thailand Musings that we are calling “Angella Talks”. The column will be about her thoughts on Thai-Western relationships, Thailand vs. the West, Thai culture and that sometimes elusive and bittersweet emotion love. I think she will bring something truly unique and positive to Thailand Musings and after you read some of her columns I hope you agree with me.

You can learn more about Angella on the bio page she wrote for us, but even better would be to read her column on a regular basis. That way you will be able to develop a conversation with her as she will also be answering questions and comments on all her posts.

Please take a moment and join me in offering a warm welcome to Angella by leaving her a comment below. And please stop back tomorrow to read her first post here at Thailand Musings.

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When you meet a girl and you like her or think she’s pretty you want to be able to tell her right? It can be hard enough for some of us when the girl speaks the same language as us, but what can you do if you’ve just met the Thai girl of your dreams and don’t know how to tell her how you feel?

Here are a few phrases of love that will go a long way in letting your girl know how you feel and finding out how she feels. Don’t let the spoken language barrier block the language of the heart.

Updated with Thai script as requested by Porn so you can now surprise your girlfriend by sending her some words of love in writing.

koon suay mak (คุณสวยมาก) – You are very beautiful
koon na-ruk mak (คุณน่ารักมาก) – You are very cute
koon tam hai pom mee kwarm sook (คุณทำให้ผมมีความสุข) – You make me happy
pom kit teung koon (ผมคิดถึงคุณ) – I miss you
pom sot (ผมยังโสด) – I am single
koon chorp pom reu blao (คุณชอบผมหรือเปล่า) – Do you like me? (For yes the reply is “chorp” and for no the reply is “mai chorp”)
koon mee faen reu yung (คุณมีแฟนหรือยัง) – Do you have a girlfriend/boyfriend? (For yes the reply is “mee” and for no the reply is “mai mee”)
ben faen pom dai mai (เป็นแฟนผมได้ไหม) – Can you be my girlfriend? (For yes the reply is “dai” and for no the reply is “mai dai”)
pom kit wa pom long ruk koon (ผมคิดว่าผมหลงรักคุณ) – I think I have fallen in love with you
hua jai kong pom ben kong koon (หัวใจของผมเป็นของคุณ) – My heart is yours
chan rak khoon (ฉันรักคุณ) – I love you
chan rak khoon maak leeuy (ฉันรักคุณมากเลย) – I love you so much
joop dai mai (จูบได้ไหม) – Can I kiss you?
tee rak (ที่รัก) – sweetheart or darling
koon keu yot ruk kong pom (คุณคือยอดรักของผม) – You are my sweetheart

That’s all for right now, I’ll post more Thai dating and love phrases later so you can speak of matters of the heart better with your Thai girlfriend. Let me know if there’s anything specific you would like to know.

If you really want to impress your Thai girl why not give our affordable Thai translation service a try. For a very reasonable fee we can translate your emails from English to Thai or from Thai to English and have them back to you in under 24 hours. Show her how much you care with an email in Thai.

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One common theme in many of the emails I get is whether or not the author of the email can trust their Thai girlfriend. Often they are back in their own home country and the girl is in Thailand and they are understandably frustrated and concerned by the lack of physical proximity and the sporadic communication. The fact that they really have no idea what is happening on a day to day basis in their girlfriends life can make them suspicious and jealous, sometimes with reason, but many times as a function of their lack of details and insight into the girls lives.

As many guys can tell you I respond to all these emails as best I can and have even chatted on IM and through Skype with some of the guys who write to me with their concerns about trusting their Thai girlfriends. In some cases the suspicion is well founded and in others it often seems to be a case of misguided jealousy. The thing is, in every case I only get the guys side of the story which is colored by their own perception. I never have the chance to talk with the Thai girl to see if my instincts tell me she’s what would be considered a good Thai girl or not.

While many stories you find on the internet may tell you differently, I don’t think that Thai girls in general are untrustworthy. On the contrary, I feel that for the most part Thai girls can not only be trusted, but are often more devoted and trustworthy than the majority of western women. Look around at how many promiscuous and cheating girls you find in the West and you’ll know what I mean. Another good indication is the heinously high divorce rate in most Western countries. Contrast that with the sub 10% divorce rate in Thailand.

While this is certainly not set in stone I think the following considerations will tell you how trustworthy (in general) your Thai girlfriend is. And just for the record I think many of the negative traits would apply to western girls as well.

General traits of untrustworthy girls:

• She works in a bar, coyote place or massage parlor.
• She is often out late at night.
• She doesn’t accept phone calls from you and doesn’t return calls, IM’s or emails.
• She asks you for financial help before you’ve actually met or lies about why she needs the money.
• Most of her friends work in bars and massage parlors.

Bear in mind that the above are quite generalized. Meeting just one of the criteria may not be an automatic “No”, but if she meets several I think the warning signs have been posted for you. Considering the number of trustworthy, loving, beautiful and loyal Thai girls out there I see no reason to take unnecessary chances or risks. More important than all the above traits is to ask yourself what do your instincts tell you. This is perhaps the most important because no matter what girl you’re with, if you can’t feel comfortable it will never work. And in many cases the warning signs are there, but are just being ignored by the guys. I can’t stress this enough…always trust your gut.

In some cases I hear from guys who have already been burned and are curious how they can meet good Thai girls. While you might think that meeting and dating Thai girls is a real minefield, I don’t think it’s any more difficult than meeting and dating anywhere else. Putting the language barrier aside it’s actually quite similar to dating in your own country, assuming that in your own country you’re willing to meet and date girls with substantially different backgrounds from yours. The Thai culture and thought process can be quite different than what you are used to, but to be honest I’ve met girls here in the U.S. whose background, thoughts and behaviors seemed totally alien to me. So while the culture question may be difficult I don’t believe it is as difficult as some people make it. Adaptability and a willingness to learn and accept on your part can go a very long way in understanding why your Thai girl behaves the way she does.

Bear in mind that the girls in Bangkok and other tourist areas may already possess quite a bit of knowledge about your culture from dealings with other foreigners. Chances are if she’s interested in dating you she’s interested in foreigners in general and has met quite a few and has already learned quite a bit of English. These girls can be considered much more open and adaptable than the majority of Thai’s, but that doesn’t mean you’ll still need to occasionally push a bit to keep her communicating fully. Here’s a great response to my own thoughts on Thai girls marrying foreigners from theperspective of a Thai girl. Well worth reading in my opinion.

Those living in Thailand should have no problem meeting girls the same way you would in your own country. Simply starting a conversation when shopping, at work and even on the BTS or MRT can often lead to unexpected events. Remember to be always polite and you can get far simply by asking for help regarding unknown Thai words or pronunciation. Those living outside Thailand have it a bit harder, but thanks to the internet not as impossible as it was even 10 years ago. As you know I met Golf at Thai Love Links and highly recommend their service. While it seems there may be more scammers appearing on the site recently as far as I can tell most are Nigerian or some such which makes them pretty easy to filter out. Overall the site is still top notch though and I receive many emails from guys who have met their girlfriends or future wives there.

In the end, the truth of the matter is that trust in a relationship simply takes time. And remember that it’s not only trust on your part that needs to develop. The girl needs time and good reason to come to trust you. Chances are she’s dated and been burned in the past. Thai guys are notorious for this and foreigners can be just as good at disappearing, leaving the poor girl alone and wondering what happened or what she might have done wrong. Trust in a relationship with anyone is a two way street and Thai girls are no different. Just take it slow, get to know each other and keep the lines of communication wide open. When Golf and I were dating and I was back in the U.S. I called and talked to her daily, sometimes for hours. I honestly believe that this helped move our relationship forward much more quickly.

And if you have any doubts or questions please feel free to leave a comment here or email me directly. Golf and I are more than happy to help with any questions or concerns.

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You may remember the great comment and post from our friend Pass about why Thai girls choose foreigners for love and marriage. I think it was really wonderful of Pass to share her thoughts with us and give us some insight into the thought process of Thai girls.

Now, we have the chance to return the favor by providing some information for Pass. She has written to me and asked if I and my readers can help her and other Thai girls by answering the question: “What kind of Thai girls do the foreigners fall in love with”? [...]

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Last September I went on holiday to Thailand. I arrived in Bangkok, booked into The Park Hotel for the night. Went to the Local travel agent at the end of the street told her I would like to see Thailand and I have three weeks to do it, what do you recommend. [...]

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Recently I received an email from one of my readers detailing his story of love found serendipitously in Thailand. He has kindly given me permission to post it, but I did edit to protect the names of the people involved at his request.

“I married her In November. I love her so much, the most beautiful person I have ever meet with a heart of gold. Did I meet her by chance or destiny? [...]

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Do you think that Thai love is different from love in the West? Quite a few men are looking for information regarding Thai girls and Thai dating that it appears that somehow they have the notion that Thai love is somehow a different sort of love than that found in the West.

It’s true that the rules surrounding dating and matrimony are different in Thailand, but I don’t feel that Thai love is greatly different than that found in any other country of the world. Thai ladies have the same sensitivity and the same depth of love as any other woman, no matter where you might be.

So, try not to read too much into what you will hear about Thai women and dating. Of course, you’ll run up against some differences once the connection is begun if you decide to take it to the next steps, however the actual blooming of love shouldn’t be significantly different than what you are used to in Europe or America.

If you make the effort to get to know the girl and Thai language and culture then you shouldn’t have a lot of trouble in cultivating both a friendship and an enduring love for one another. In questions of the heart I don’t believe that nationality is too considerable. We all have similar feelings no matter what nation we come from.

So please try not to fixate too much on the disparities in the customs of Thailand as you begin your quest to locate a Thai girlfriend. Instead, keep your attention on the lady and her thoughts and dreams. You’re both searching for the same thing, specifically love, and while it might be a ephemeral thing, once located you will wonder how you ever survived without one another.

Trust me, the love of a Thai lady is an astonishing thing and the depth of that love can sometimes be unexpected. If you take the time to really relate to a Thai girl you will fathom completely what I mean.

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Lots of you come to Thailand Musings looking for Thai love phrases and that’s not surprising. You want to be able to express yourself in your new Thai girlfriends native language and that’s a really good thing. It help you to understand the culture a little better and it gives her a really good feeling too. By learning some Thai language she knows that you are more committed and that you are interested in her culture.

When Golf and I first met and started chatting on Thai Love Links I struggled to find a good resource for Thai language. I didn’t need to become proficient, but I wanted to be able to express my feelings for her in a way I knew she would understand and I wanted her to know that I cared for her so much that I was willing to take the time to learn her language.

So, for those of you that want or need to speak the language of love in Thai here’s a small dictionary of Thai love phrases that are sure to impress and excite your new Thai girlfriend. I guarantee she will be amazed and impressed. If you’re having trouble with pronunciation you can ask her for help too which will help to make your relationship more concrete.

And if you really want to impress your new friend why not give our Thai translation service a try. For a very reasonable fee Golf and I will translate your email from English to Thai or your girls email from Thai to English. In addition to being affordable we also offer 24 hour turnaround and complete privacy.

Beginning Your Relationship

I am single. (pom yung sot) ผมยังโสด

You are very beautiful. (koon suay mak mak) คุณสวยมากๆ

You are very cute. (koon na-ruk mak mak) คุณน่ารักมากๆ

I like your smile. (pom chorp roi yim kong koon) ผมชอบรอยยิ้มของคุณ

Can I see you tomorrow? (proong nee jer gun dai mai) – For yes the reply is “dai” and for no the reply is “mai dai” พรุ่งนี้เจอกันได้ไหม? ได้ / ไม่ได้

Are you free tonight? (keun nee koon wang mai) – For yes the reply is “wang” and for no the reply is “mai wang” คืนนี้คุณว่างไหม? ว่าง / ไม่ว่าง

Do you like me? (koon chorp pom reu blao) – For yes the reply is “chorp” and for no the reply is “mai chorp” คุณชอบผมหรือเปล่า? ชอบ / ไม่ชอบ

Can you go out with me? (bai tee-o gup pom dai mai) – For yes the reply is “dai” and for no the reply is “mai dai” ไปเที่ยวกับผมได้ไหม? ได้ / ไม่ได้

Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend? (koon mee faen reu yung) – For yes the reply is “me” and for no the reply is “yung mai mee” คุณมีแฟนหรือยัง? มี / ยังไม่มี

What kind of men do you like? (koon chorp poo-chai bap nai) คุณชอบผู้ชายแบบไหน?

Can you tell me your phone number please? (kor ber tor koon dai mai) – For yes the reply is “dai” and for no the reply is “mai dai” ขอเบอร์โทรคุณได้ไหม? ได้ / ไม่ได้

Do you want to go and eat with me? (bai gin kao gub pom mai) – For yes the reply is “bai” and for no the reply is “mai bai” ไปกินข้าวกับผมไหม? ไป / ไม่ไป

Do you want to go to watch a movie? (bai doo nung gup pom mai) – For yes the reply is “bai” and for no the reply is “mai bai” ไปดูหนังกับผมไหม? ไป / ไม่ไป

Your eyes are so beautiful. (duang dtar kong koon suay mak) ดวงตาของคุณสวยมาก

Can I hold your hand? (pom kor jub meu koon dai mai?) ผมขอจับมือคุณได้ไหม?

Have a nice dream. (fun dee na) ฝันดีนะ

Take care of yourself. (do lae dtua eng duay na) ดูแลตัวเองด้วยนะ

Taking it to the Next Level

Love at first sight. (ruk raek pop) รักแรกพบ

I still remember the first moment we met. (pom yung jum krang-raek tee row pob gun dai) ผมยังจำครั้งแรกที่เราพบกันได้

I want you to be happy. (pom dtong gan hai koon mee kwarm sook) ผมต้องการให้คุณมีความสุข

You make me happy. (koon tam hai pom mee kwarm sook) คุณทำให้ผมมีความสุข

I miss you. (pom kit teung koon) ผมคิดถึงคุณ

I miss you all the time. (pom kit-teung koon dta-lod way-la) ผมคิดถึงคุณตลอดเวลา

Can you be my girlfriend? (ben faen gub pom dai mai) – For yes the reply is “dai” and for no the reply is “mai dai” เป็นแฟนกับผมได้ไหม? ได้ / ไม่ได้

You are my girlfriend. (koon ben fan kong pom) คุณเป็นแฟนของผม

You are my sweetheart. (koon keu yot -ruk kong pom) คุณคือยอดรักของผม

You are the one I have been waiting for. (koon bpen kon dieow tee pom ror koi) คุณเป็นคนเดียวที่ผมรอคอย

I am serious about you. (pom jing jai gup koon) ผมจริงจังกับคุณ

I think about you all night. (pom kit teung koon tung keun) ผมคิดถึงคุณทั้งคืน

I want to meet you. (pom dtong-gan/yaak pop koon) ผมต้องการ/อยากพบคุณ

I want to hug you. (pom dtong-gan/yaak got koon) ผมต้องการ/อยากกอดคุณ

Can I kiss you? (pom kor joop koon dai mai) ผมขอจูบคุณได้ไหม

I want to be with you. (pom yaak yoo gup koon) ผมอยากอยู่กับคุณ

Do you miss me? (koon kit teung pom baang mai) คุณคิดถึงผมบ้างไหม?

I won’t forget you. (pom ja mai leum koon) ผมจะไม่ลืมคุณ

When do you want me to come back? (koon dtong gan hai pom glup ma muea rai) คุณต้องการให้ผมกลับมาเมื่อไหร่

When You’re Ready to Marry Your Thai Girlfriend

I think I have fallen in love with you. (pom kit wa pom long ruk koon) / (pom kit wa pom dtok loom ruk koon) ผมคิดว่าผมหลงรักคุณ / ผมคิดว่าผมตกหลุมรักคุณ

My heart is yours. (hua jai kong pom ben kong koon) หัวใจของผมเป็นของคุณ

You are my angel. (koon keu nung fa kong pom) คุณคือนางฟ้าของผม

I love you. (pom ruk koon) ผมรักคุณ

I will be faithful to you. (pom ja seu-sut dtor/gub koon) ผมจะซื่อสัตย์ต่อ/กับคุณ

I don’t want to let you go. (pom mai dtong-gan hai koon bai) ผมไม่ต้องการให้คุณไป

Can I meet your parents? (pom ja bai pob por gub mae kong koon dai mai) – For yes the reply is “dai” and for no the reply is “mai dai” ผมจะไปพบพ่อกับแม่ของคุณได้ไหม? ได้ / ไม่ได้

I want to see your face every day. (pom yaak hen na koon took wan) ผมอยากเห็นหน้าคุณทุกวัน

I want to marry you. (pom dtong-gan dtang ngan gub koon) ผมต้องการแต่งงานกับคุณ

I can’t live without you. (pom yoo mai dai ta mai mee koon) ผมอยู่ไม่ได้ถ้าไม่มีคุณ

If There’s Trouble

I hope I can see you again. (pom wang wa ja dai pob koon eek-krang) ผมหว้งว่าจะได้พบคุณอีกครั้ง

Can you give me one more chance? (hai aow-gat pom eek-krang dai mai) – For yes the reply is “dai” and for no the reply is “mai dai” ให้โอกาสผมอีกครั้งได้ไหม? ได้ / ไม่ได้

I will never cheat on you (pom ja mai nork jai koon) ผมจะไม่นอกใจคุณ

Your love is very important to me. (kwarm ruk kong koon sam kun dtor/sam-rap pom mak) ความรักของคุณสำคัญต่อ/สำหรับผมมาก

Please speak to me. (dai brot poot gup pom) ได้โปรดพูดกับผม

You hurt me so much. (koon tam pom jep-bpuat mak) คุณทำผมเจ็บปวดมาก

Please trust me. (brot chuea jai pom) โปรดเชื่อใจผม

I want you to trust me. (pom dtong gan hai koon chuea jai pom) ผมต้องการให้คุณเชื่อใจผม

I never lied to you. (pom mai koie gor hok koon) ผมไม่เคยโกหกคุณ

Don’t leave me. (ya ting pom) อย่าทิ้งผม

I will always be on your side. (pom ja yoo kiang-kang koon sa-mer) ผมจะอยู่เคียงข้างคุณเสมอ

Obviously this is not complete, but it will give you a great start and if possible get your Thai girlfriend to help you expand on your vocabulary. If you’re interested in more Thai language guides leave a comment telling me what you need to know and I’ll do my best to put together additional guides. And if you want to hear the phrases maybe I can get Golf to record them and we’ll post them up here. As always, I’m here to help in anyway, just leave a comment and ask.

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